How Low Emotional Intelligence Affects Relationships
Low emotional intelligence is a problem that can have an influence on a wide variety of social relationships. Some experts even suggest that emotional intelligence may actually be more important than IQ in determining overall success in life.
Think about the last time you got into an argument with someone else because they did not understand how you felt. Or consider the last time you had conflict with another person because you could not understand what they were feeling. In both cases, emotional intelligence might play a role in the underlying conflict.
Emotional intelligence can play a major role in how we interact with others. Sometimes coworkers, employers, friends, family members and other acquaintances might struggle with poor emotional skills that make social situations difficult and fraught with tension. In other cases, it might even be your own emotional intelligence skills that need a little work.
An individual’s level of emotional intelligence is often referred to as his or her emotional intelligence quotient, or EQ. Here are some of the classic signs of low emotional intelligence:
1. Getting in lots of arguments.
You probably know someone who always seems to get into arguments with others. Friends, family, co-workers and even random strangers find themselves embroiled in disputes with these argumentative individuals. Because low EQ individuals struggle to understand the emotions of others, they often find themselves arguing without considering how others are feeling.
2. Not understanding how others feel.
Low EQ people are often completely oblivious to the feelings of other people. They don’t get that their spouses might be angry at them or that their co-workers are irritated. Not only that but they also feel very annoyed that other people expect them to know how they are feeling. Emotions, in general, tend to exasperate people with low EQ.
3. Thinking that other people are overly sensitive.
People who are low in EQ might crack off jokes at inappropriate times. For example, they might make a joke at a funeral or right after a tragic event. When other people react to such out-of-line jokes, the low EQ individual may feel like others are simply being too sensitive. These individuals have difficulty understanding the emotions of others, so it’s little wonder why they are unable to interpret the emotional tone after such events.
4. Refusing to listen to other points of view.
Low EQ individuals feel that they are right and will defend their position with great vigor, yet refuse to listen to what others have to say. This is particularly true if other people are critical of how the individual does not understand what others are feeling. They are often pessimistic and overly critical of other people’s feelings.